There is nothing worse than being stuck in life. The hard part is knowing you’re stuck and not being able to rock back n forth to break free from the mud. Stuck. Let me help push you out with five essential tools that have helped me gain traction.
In the autumn of 1998, I took a mountaineering class near Vail, Colorado. Back then I was a big outdoor girl hence the backpacking trip. This experience was awesome and changed the course of my life. But it also taught me something I didn’t expect.
My group consisted of eight people. The dynamics were a bit of a mishmash…many personalities, many opinions. What more can you ask for? Other than knowing you’ll be with these people for three weeks. During the course, we were given a variety of challenges on top of our normal survival tasks, which weren’t easy. We didn’t have coffee, a tent, or a fire! Filtered water, a tarp to sleep under, and a sleeping bag were what we got. I survived, but SO appreciate the comforts of my home.
A few challenges we embarked on were rock climbing, summiting a 12,500 ft. mountain, and we even learned how to do a survival search n’ rescue. On this particular day, our task was to follow a topographical map and use a compass to get to the next camp. Sounds simple, yet it was to be done without our guide and to not follow a trail. According to our instructors is was a six-hour trip. Easy peasy.
We got this, right?
The day started crisp yet sunny, things were looking good. However, the first snag we ran into, was the group dynamics. During our hike, each person was to take a turn to lead the group. Oh boy. You can only imagine. They should have added a rule for everyone to shut their mouth too! That wasn’t the worst of it though. After five hours into our trek, the sky began to darken. A bit of panic settled into some folks, including me. We’re in the mountains remember. I pointed out the dark clouds and no one said a word. We knew what was coming, we just didn’t know how powerful it would be.
Within minutes rain, hail, and wind pounded our bodies. We thought about stopping but that could cause us to get cold and maybe a little hyperthermic, a ‘no’ on that choice. It was hard to see and hear for that matter. The calm of quietness before the storm was no more. Exhausted from arguments, confusion, and complaining we all wanted to give up and signal our guides to find us. Our backpacks felt like cinder blocks and our feet were wet. We felt stuck. Looking forward looked bleak, and backward no different. We wanted to stay put and give up.
When out of nowhere, someone yelled, “Come on Nina, hot drinks. Christy, dry socks. Seth, spaghetti!” As silly as this sounds, that person was genius. He rocked us from ‘stuck’ to ‘moving forward’, and all it took was a little visionary picture. We pictured ourselves eating a warm meal, sipping hot tea, and wearing dry socks. As we continued to hike, we kept talking about how good the spaghetti was going to taste and how cozy our feet would be in warm dry socks. This picture naturally encouraged us. Our attitudes shifted. We got along, laughed, and grew stronger. Two hours later we made it to camp. Our goal of being cozy became a reality. There was so much relief we made it through.
The power of the mind
Having a picture to focus on pulls us forward to break free from being stuck. The backpacking trip is a small example of what vision can do.
No matter how short or long, having a forward-thinking picture for our future is one of the keys to surviving in this complicated world, most importantly through our personal storms. Why? Because it’s the storms that have the greatest power to derail us, to distract us, and to make us want to quit. Which leads me to share with you how to simplify the process and to prevent being stuck.
5 essential tools to break free from being stuck
Take a few minutes each day and think “big picture”. How are your decisions today going to affect tomorrow; and who will it impact? What is the one thing you absolutely want in life?
Pray about it.
Ask God to help you see the big picture of your life. Most importantly in the storm, “Help me see beyond this storm. Help me to be strong, focused, and…yes…thankful no matter what.”
Line your vision up with your values, passions, and strengths.
Ask yourself these questions: What is important to me? What do I love to do? Values play such a big role in our happiness.
Talk with someone who understands your big picture or what you’re aiming for.
This is huge. Just talking with someone who genuinely listens and asks the right questions can be a game-changer. Contact me for a Jam Session.
Create a vision board or “Big Picture Board”
There is power in ‘seeing is believing’. This is a fun tool. Here’s a free guide.
Daniel Harkavy says, “Vision defines what you stand for, why you exist, and who you will become.” Having vision in a storm will not only get you through it, but it will make you stronger, wiser, and clearer about how to move forward.
This isn’t new news friends. Paul says in 1 Thessalonians 5:19 to not put out the Spirit’s fire. Vision is bringing the picture out of our minds and hearts and experiencing it with our senses and neighbors.
Maybe all you need to do to get unstuck is to simplify the picture and aim for one thing at a time. For me, that was dry socks!
Mark Twain says it this way, “The secret to getting ahead is getting started.” Getting started is probably the most difficult task of them all. We know what we want to do, we can see where we want to go, but we don’t necessarily know how to start. In this post, I’m going to share with you the top three must-haves in starting your goal, business idea, or task at hand. Let’s get started.
1. Have a plan.
Of course, I was going to say that. If there is no plan, there is no map. When the map isn’t in front of our faces, we won’t know what direction we’re going in. We could be going in circles for all we know…which has happened to me. In fact, I was going so fast around the circle that I actually thought I was going somewhere.
Take things one step at a time. The first step is the write everything down. I know all these ideas have been in your head and you may think that is enough, but get it down on paper. For some of us, this might even be scary. “What if it doesn’t look as good on paper as it does in my head?” This might be true for starters. But keep working on it. Draw pictures, use details, it can be hard to transform information from our brains to the paper. But at least we can see it now. When it is down on paper, your idea becomes real. Now that’s really scary. But if you really want this to happen, it starts with paper and a pencil.
2. Get organized
The next step is to take all those things you wrote down and organize them in categories or to-dos. I personally wouldn’t do this on the same day as step one. You just puked out your idea on paper, if that was hard, let it sit there overnight and start step two the next day. One exception to this rule is if you are on a roll and are ready to break it down, then go for it.
Organizing your ideas, the steps you need to take, the research that needs to happen, the tools you need to acquire is critical to your success. Think of anything and everything you think you need to make this dream happen. You won’t know if all, but you need someplace to start.
Lastly, break down these tasks into doable steps. I know you’re going to want to go fast, but there is no sense in going fast if you don’t know what the heck you’re doing. Step by step. In fact, when you take a step by step approach, you may find you will go faster than expected. Most importantly, with each step, we get a little more confident in what we’re doing. And with more confidence, comes the next step, then the next, and so on. I have a freebie on goals if you want to check it out. Head over to Powerful Products for a ‘Step by Step’ necklace. I wear mine when I’m overwhelmed; it really does helps to have a little reminder around my neck. I hang on to it and say, “I got this”.
3. Seek encouragement – this is a big one!
“Gotta start somewhere” is a great weapon to protect you from judgment. When you’re trying to describe your dream or idea to someone and they just don’t get it, you’re probably going to get some weird looks and unasked opinions. Remember this with your kids. When they come to you and say, “Hey Mom! I’ve got this great idea to make popcorn bowls out of my old basketballs!” If you want your child to come to ask for your opinion in the future, you better choose how you react wisely. The idea may stink, but they need to figure that out on their own.
Lesson one: tell someone you trust, who will give you encouragement, more on this in a minute. Lesson two; don’t say a thing to someone who may bash your idea into liver pudding. Remember, if someone comes to you to share an idea, this person came to you, they feel safe with you. They are seeking a green-light. No matter what the idea they tell you, give them a high-five! Anyone who drums-up the courage to tell someone something dear to their heart deserves a five.
This happened to me many times before I finally learned my valuable lesson of ‘pick who you share with’. The most hurting time was when I shared some ideas with someone I loved. You’d think that is the right person to share with, and sometimes it is, but those loved ones can be very critical. They don’t mean to be critical. They love you so much they don’t want you to fail. So to ‘protect’ you, they blast constructive criticism from the gate. Parents, spouses, best friends listen to me, please. You may think you’re helping, but you’re not. At this point, think before you speak, this isn’t your spotlight to steel with knowledge or ego, it isn’t a time to ask a million questions of how they’re going to do it, again, just be excited for them, let them have this moment and give them encouragement.
Getting worked up
The embarrassing time when I shared my idea was at a dinner party with my husband and his colleagues. Wrong time. I panicked really. Of course, at any work function, one of the questions people asked is, “Where do you work?” I should have known better. Why wouldn’t they ask this, we’re all curious to know what people do and secretly compare our lives to theirs. We’re all guilty of that. Anyway…while we were sitting at the dinner table waiting for our salads, the butterflies started to flutter in my belly.
Here I was a stay-at-mom-home who was trying to start a blog. I wanted to say something important like I’m launching a new product. Everyone else has these big fancy things they were doing. My blog was just starting out and wasn’t too confident about it. I guess I could say I’m a stay-at-home-mom, which I’m very proud of doing, but I got stupid. My hands were getting sweaty as the person next to me told us what she did. These people have awesome jobs. Me? I had a hobby. And the annoying part of this experience was that it was loud in the restaurant so you had to yell for anyone to hear you. Go figure.
“Christy, what do you do?”
Yikes! My turn. Oh boy. “I’m starting a new blog to help people go after their true dream in life and do more than exist.” At the time my blog was domorethanexist.com. From my answer people just stared at me, which seemed like five minutes. Because no one said anything I felt like I had to explain myself. I should have stopped there. Not really knowing what I was saying I went on and fumbled, but tried to catch myself. Big “L” to the forehead.
When I was trying to explain the blog their expression on their faces made me feel so out of place like I had a bug on my face and they were trying to figure out if they should smack it or let it crawl in my mouth and choke me. All this was going through my head until I said my magic words “Gotta start somewhere, right?” All of a sudden, the bug jumped off my face and into their mouths, they couldn’t argue, they couldn’t judge. Those four words made all the difference, and who knows maybe they were jealous they weren’t in a position I was. Toast to that! Wipe to the brow.
Two quick lessons at the dinner party:
Know your pitch before you go to a dinner party
When you get that ‘bug on your face look’ use “Gotta start somewhere, right?”, they’ll simply nod their head and repeat, “Gotta start somewhere.” Try it, it’s funny.
Where do you get true encouragement?
Know who to go to.
This goes back to some of the things I just said. If you know the person you’re going to is going to be critical, don’t talk to that person. I know that’s going to be hard, because sometimes we have this weird emotional acceptance thing that goes something like this, “if Sally (the critical person) approves of my idea then it’s gotta be a good one. I’ll just keep asking her opinion on my ideas until I get a thumbs-up from her.” STOP IT! You’re playing the acceptance game, fold your hand and leave the table. If you continue to go to this person your self-esteem will tank. Don’t have anyone? Talk to me! Schedule a Jam Session, I’d love to hear from you!
The Bible is full of encouragement. In a weird way, the Bible is not dated, meaning God speaks to us individually through His words no matter what year it is. One verse may mean something one day, then a year later that same verse may mean something totally different. He knows what you need to hear and when you need to hear it. You just have to willing to read the pages. One of my favorite verses is Psalm 27:1 The Lord is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life – of whom shall I be afraid? (NIV).
Teachers, mentors, coaches, our kids.
Teachers are great encouragers, so are mentors, coaches, and even your own children. When I tell my son an idea I get a ‘high five’ right away. Kids are pretty smart, they’re extremely observant. On a side note, just the other day, I was trying to figure out a new plugin for the website and it took me forever to figure it out, when in fact, I couldn’t get it to work. My son had asked how my day went and I told him I had wasted it on a silly plugin, nothing got done. His response surprised me, “Mom, you didn’t waste your day, you learned what not to do!” I laughed, smiled, and said, “Right On! I needed to hear that. Thanks, bud.”
If anyone can encourage you, it can be yourself. Gotta start somewhere. With that said, head over to my Freebies and download my top favorite affirmations.
More sources of encouragement come from non-fiction books, YouTube videos of motivational speakers, stories from those TV talent shows, music, and even a stranger. When I first started out I got encouragement from Holley Gerth’s book, “You’re Made for a God-Sized Dream“. I still reference it today. So good!
4. And lastly, tap into courage.
In 2008 I started blogging. I had no idea what I was doing or how to do it for that matter. Note the dinner party. All I knew was that I needed to start somewhere. In the various books and ‘how to blog’ posts I read over the years, I’ve noticed a common denominator; nothing happens until Courage is invited (make picture quote).
I had to get the guts to try. “Gotta start somewhere” gives us permission to take a step forward, to try it on for a bit. They say, “You don’t know what the hell you’re doing, but you gotta at least try. So if you fall, it’s because you didn’t know what you’re doing. And that’s okay. Now stand the hell back up and figure it out.”
What is courage?
It’s the moment in time where we take a step of faith not knowing what will come of it but do it anyway. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” (NIV) Gotta start somewhere.
When we put ourselves out there, people are going to judge. The magical element of courage is that we don’t care what other people think, we have a vision and we’re going to try our hardest to see that vision become part of the big picture. When people watch, give them a show. Show them how to move forward, how to stand back up, and how to fight.
Those bug-on-your-face looks are beaming with curiosity or maybe jealously. Remember, everyone has their own opinion, and they are only opinions; it’s you who you need to believe in.
How do we ‘start somewhere’?
Pray. Daily. In Jesus’s name. “Lord, light my fire within. What is my next step?”
Plan. Step by step.
Practice. Try your dream on, take it off, try it on again.
You stepping out in faith may not only help you but others who want to do the same. “Gotta start somewhere” isn’t just permission to try; it’s also to inspire others to do the same.
A career path can be a smooth clear ride or a mountainous trek during a blizzard. We all have a plan in our minds of where we want to go, how far we want to climb the corporate ladder, and how much money we’d like to make. We think those things will bring gratification and happiness. And in the short term, it does! But when we reach a certain age, some of us think about how we spent our years working and wonder if we did the right thing. I have 4 simple ways to make sure you reach gratification during your working years.
What Ralph says
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
This quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson was written on a whiteboard when I was in college. I was a little confused because for me my thought process was that college was to teach me how to walk down the path, how to survive, and thrive on the path already made.
To make my own path sounded absurd. Why would I do that when there’s a path already made?
When I graduated college (20+ years ago) I couldn’t find a job in my major. As I said, back then I was the type of person who liked to follow the process. But the process wasn’t working according to my plan. Ironically I felt alone but was far from it. CNBC states, “51 percent of graduates from the classes of 2014 and 2015 said they are working in jobs that do not require their college degree…”
The hope for correction
Here’s the hope: when we are on the wrong path, God will correct us IF we ask Him. Proverbs 3:6, “In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.”
He will instruct by a whisper, words through a person, His Word, or an event. He will point when we are ready to see.
My redirect was an event. I suffered through a harsh pregnancy and miraculously gave birth to a healthy baby. This certainly opened my eyes!
A new meaning of career path
My perspective transformed from wanting a step by step career path, to wanting to be ME again. I wanted my child to see ME, the person who is passionate about her dreams, and not a rat raced woman to be seen only from 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm. If there is one thing I can give this world, it’s a child who knows his mom.
4 simple ways to a fulfilling career path:
Proactively seek a relationship with God every day. Reading a daily devotional is a great way to go about this. A devotional gives you a quick verse, a short paragraph of interpretation or related story, and a simple prayer. What devotional to get? I personally have found nourishment in Jesus Calling or Trusting God Day by Day.
Make peace with past decisions, and see how they helped rather than deterred. One activity I’ve to help me see the positives out of not so positive jobs and decisions are to write down what good came out of it. Was it being more organized? Standing up for myself? Learning that I didn’t like it? Understanding what kind of people I work well with? What kind of work environment I thrive or die in? There is always something we can learn from any experience. When we write those down we’ll remember and know what to look for in our next step.
Never lose sight of what you want. Keeping our eyes focused on our end goals leads the way. Yes, there are going to be obstacles, but just because it gets hard, it doesn’t mean you give up. Create a vision board so you have something physical to reference to and look at every day. You can get instructions on how to make a vision board in my Freebies.
Practice bravery. Bravery has a lot to do with what you’re telling yourself. Make sure you’re telling yourself things you need to hear to move forward. Again, head to Freebies to check out 67 of my top favorite affirmations.
We’re here to make trails, not to follow ones.
A question for you
Let me ask you a question: What does your career path look like according to your happiness?
Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” It’s in this context that helped me get back to being a pioneer of my own path. Just remember there is no ‘right’ way to go about our career path. When people tell you to go about it in a certain way, think of those ways as suggestions.
Joyce Meyer, Christian author, says, “Your priority is NOT to keep everyone else in your life happy by doing all the things they expect; it is to live a life that is pleasing to God and one that you can enjoy.”
My path got pushed, pulled, twisted, and stretched in some directions that made me stronger yet in other tracks made me wonder if God was trying to steer me to where I am today. Adjusting my path to sync with my drive to be a stay-at-home-mom has been a priceless journey.
Ralph Waldo Emerson wasn’t talking about how to climb the corporate ladder, he was talking about your wellbeing. Your unique path is a journey based on bravery, faith, and being true to yourself. Explore your existence; listen for direction, and create new ways to make a path.
What are you doing in-between the numbers? In other words, how are you spending your time when you’re not working? If you were to look back on your life do you see any regrets?
The saying “Time is money” seeps into my heart every time I hear a life end prematurely, or when I hear of a sobering diagnosis of a family member, or a grave attack on the innocent. Let me ask you this: Do you truly and honestly value your time? How dare me to ask that question! No matter our race, age, religion, pocketbook, or sex we all have time.
What does sex have to do with this?
Sex has a lot to do with time. Not physical sex. Got ya there, but sex as in sexagesimal.
Wikipedia assured me that sexagesimal has nothing to with actual sex, but it has a lot to do with time. In the 3rd millennium BC sexagesimal was defined as a numerical system for time having a base of 60.
Sexagesimal helped us put numbers on the clock. What we do in-between those numbers defines how we live. The choices we make affect how we use our time.
Regrets, what are they?
Regrets happen when you feel sad or sorry for something you did or didn’t do…with your time. If you ‘Google’ “regrets in life” you’ll find a slew of articles. One of those articles was about a nurse, who cared for people on their deathbed. She had a lot of conversations with her patients about regrets. She heard a lot of the same things.
The most common regrets include:
To of had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
I wish I didn’t work so hard.
To of had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
To had let myself be happier.
Did any of those regrets pop out at you? Scary to think that one of those could be our regret someday. But we don’t have to think that way. We can take charge of our time between the numbers and use them to better ourselves and the people around us.
Here are 5 techniques to living a life without regrets
Pray for guidance in using your time and talents.
Define where you want to spend your minutes: type of work, relationships, passions. It’s not too late to change all that.
Make a ‘vision board’ and look at it daily. Seeing your goals and dreams daily magically helps you achieve them.
Manage your timeon electronics: x amount on social media, x amount for emails and texting, incorporate a turn-off-electronics day.
Schedule ‘Solo Time’. Learn to love discovering yourself, organize your thoughts, and listen to your heart. This includes talking positively to yourself. There are some affirmations in my Freebies for you.
We all may experience ‘regretful season’ in life, I know I have; just remember you’re the one who has to live with it…or die with it for that matter. Stop regret in its track. Notice what is happening. Be aware of your surroundings and move forward.
This Thanksgiving I am grateful for my time because everything I have is a reflection of what I did in-between the numbers on the clock.
Learn more about yourself so you can live a happier life. When we were born, we were born with an identity. One of the problems I see in unhappy people is that they don’t know who they are as an individual. I’ve been there in many seasons in life. Our job is to learn who God created us to be, to not only be happier but to fulfill our deepest need: purpose.
There are times in life when we don’t feel like we’re doing anything; we’re just going through the motions to get through the day. The tug-a-war happens when we want more out of life, we want to make a difference in society, we want a fulfilling life, but don’t know how to go about that because we’re stuck in a cycle of worldly pressures. How can we break away? We do that by understanding who we are.
Do More Than Exist
Do more than exist (DMTE) used to be the name of this blog. Those four words are pretty powerful and say a lot! Do more than exist can mean a variety of things. It can be about getting off the couch, starting a business, getting healthy, raising a family, volunteering, running a marathon, going on a mission trip, contributing to a global cause, or expressing your artistic ability. We all have our own unique meaning behind those four simple words. And we all have a fingerprint that is critical to our success. To do more than exist is to learn more about yourself.
Discovering Who We Are
Discovering oneself is quite a journey. We may go down many paths to look for opportunities, to look for clues of who we are, yet find nothing. I remember way too many rabbit trails I followed, only to find disappointment. “WHO AM I, GOD?” I would yell in my mind. Tears streamed down my face out of frustration. I so badly wanted to know what God made me to do on this planet.
In my worry, I missed something very valuable. I was so focused on a map that I forgot to look between the paths. Following or trying to follow everyone else made me feel like a failure. I didn’t fit and thought something was wrong with me! It took me a long while to learn that what worked for someone, didn’t work for my individuality. Let me save you some tissue, the trap of comparison will throw your compass off and you’ll just keep going around in circles if you don’t do something about it.
With that said, let me tell you that your path in life isn’t going to be one path. Rarely does that happen. If we want a fulfilled life we’re going to have to adapt to the seasons we’re given in life. When we have children, be a mom. When we have to bring the bacon home, bring the bacon home. It’s okay if we don’t feel purposeful at the moment. But I do ask you of this: always learn who you are in the role you play, you will then have a clearer picture of the path you want to take.
9 Easy Ways to Live Beyond our Existence
Taking the time to explore our hearts to understand what we like and dislike is extremely important for our overall happiness. Our hearts shape our lives and our values affect our choices. When our values align with our decisions, something magical happens…a smile on our face. If you want to learn more about personal values, you can check out my freebie here.
Learn more about yourself
1) Help others. If you see someone in need, help them! Hold the door, pick up something they dropped, simply do what unto others as you would do unto you.
2) Spend some time alone. I like to go for walks outdoors on a trail in a park. Spending time alone at home with a fun project or your hobby is also a great way to have fun with yourself. I have even gone to the movies solo. There is something about taking a time-out for yourself without having to worry about a kid or dog, or spouse for that matter. It’s just you.
3) Journal. Writing down your thoughts, prayers, and frustrations helps you understand what’s going on in your heart. Over the years I found the tone in my journaling started out pretty rough. I was swearing, mad, and confused about what was going on in my life and relationships. Rarely did I find a positive entry. But that is what journaling is for, an outlet, a venting passage. It’s to give our thoughts permission to leave our minds so we don’t have to think about it anymore...it’s documented on paper so I can now let it go.
On the flipside, journaling is also there to be creative, to document life, and to tell yourself good things. As I grew older I found my journal entries to be much more positive and creative. My journal entries turned into prayers and things I learned on my daily devotional podcast. As I flip through the pages it’s gratifying to see how far you’ve come. And to see what seemed like a big deal then is not so now.
4) Engage in an activity you normally wouldn’t do. Push your introvert-ness aside and step out of your comfort zone for just a little bit. Challenge your limits, physically and mentally. This may sound silly but I recently went to an estate sale. You have ever been to one of those? I had not, a bit nervous my stomach was. Not only was the sale out in the middle of nowhere, but it was also a challenge to get there. I’m talking dirt road with no shoulder to park. Cars were getting stuck everywhere! At the auction, I bid on one thing raising my little card. Gosh, I was scared, but I did! Going to an estate sale might not sound like a big deal to you, but it was something completely out of my normal routine. This is a very small idea of what you can do.
5) Clean out your stuff. Clutter is toxic. Sifting through your stuff and giving it a good organization will do your mind good. You’ll learn all about yourself and what stuff you like to keep. Maybe you’ll even understand why you want to keep it or give it to someone else. Take a look at your stuff and ask yourself, what does that say about you? At the auction I went to, I learned A LOT about the people who were selling it.
6) Write down what you want to leave behind. I’m not talking about stuff. What kind of legacy do you want to leave? What do you want to be remembered for? And how can you start doing that today?
Lastly, get busy
7) Volunteer. Choose an activity at your church or community center and volunteer to help out. This too can be scary. We don’t have much time, especially we have little ones, so bring them along. It not only helps you feel good about yourself contributing to society, but it shows your kids how to do it. Again you’ll learn about your attitude and capabilities simply by lending a hand.
8) Get your body in check. I could go on and on about this one. In fact, visit my store for a course on how to take better care of our precious bodies. The way you feel affects your decisions. And your decisions affect your path.
9) Do something creative. Draw, doddle, sew, design your own landscaping or garden, make your own cookie recipe or stir-fry dish, arrange flowers, move your furniture around, or mow your lawn in a different pattern. Get those juices flowing and see what you create!
By engaging in these activities you will have a better idea of who you are and who you want to become. I suggest starting small. Maybe try one of the nine exploring ways every few days or on the weekends….except for the body one, that should be done every day (wink). When we get to know ourselves better, our path in life becomes clearer and more fulfilling. It’s funny how this simple exercise can give you a wealthier life.
I recently talked to a friend of mine who said she forgot how to dream. She didn’t remember how to do it. When life takes over and kids are screaming I can see how our day-dreams turn into day-to-day monotony. Let’s fix that.
First off let me reiterate that dreaming is super healthy! In fact, dreaming might save your life for that matter. It provides hope, encouragement, and it gives us something to strive for every day. It gives us purpose and meaning. Individuality.
How do you dream?
This might sound easier said than done, but a good exercise is to think about winning the lottery. What would you do with all that money? Would you pay off your debt? Buy a new house? Go on a trip around the world? Give it to a charity? This is where we start. We start with ‘what if’ questions.
If I had all the money in the world and no responsibilities, what would I do?
I have amazing health and the freedom to do anything, what would it be?
I am amazingly smart, what am I doing to do with my wisdom?
These questions may seem extreme or unrealistic, but remember, this is an exercise to get your dream-juices flowing. Maybe a more realistic question is: when the kids are out of the house, what is it that I’ve always wanted to do? Or another approach is to think about when you were a little girl. What did you dream about doing as an adult?
It’s fun to dream. You learn a lot about yourself. No one can steal your dream from you. They may try, but they aren’t you and they don’t have your magic touch.
How do we make our dreams come true?
Well, I’m no expert, because I’m still working on my dream. But I do know a few things that have worked for me. Check these five actions that help our dreams come into reality.
1- Pray about it. Ask for opportunities to present themselves. And ask for a person that can help you.
2- Do something about it. God may want you to fulfill your dream, but He’s probably not gonna help you much if you don’t get off the couch and work hard for it. He might just be waiting for you to take the first step! Do one little thing today towards your dream, maybe it’s writing it down?
3- Don’t lose sight of it. People are going to try and change your mind, twist your big picture, or tell you it’s ridiculous….stand firm and stick with what you’ve always wanted. We are all unique for a reason, stay unique!
4- Read the Bible. That may sound silly to you. But it works. It WORKS! I recently had a huge question answered by reading the Bible. It was totally unexpected and surprisingly comforting and reassuring. Invest in a Life Application Study Bible….huge help in understanding scripture. One of my strategies for reading the Bible is that I look at the concordance in the back of it. I find words that POP at me. Then I read the scriptures underneath that word. And as a bonus, I read the study notes if available. It takes five minutes or less.
5- Plan. Then plan some more. Write down, draw, voice record, you name it….anything and everything about your dream and what you want it to be like. Even write down what you’ll do with your riches after you hit it big….riches as in time, money, or love you received.
Get back into dreaming by asking yourself fun questions, write all those dreams down, and pick which one you can be starting working on today. Then take some action on it. Pray, take a step of faith, stand firm, read the Word, and draw a plan. We all love planning! Enjoy this journey, receive motivation by simply dreaming.